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Realationships > Real + Relationships

How do you start writing about relationships that are real? I believe you have experience things before you can talk about them and have someone believe it or at least listen. It has to be part of your reality or learned through someone else's experiences.

We all have been involved in relationships with loved ones, family, co-workers, friends and even people we interact with during the course of the our day. In these relationships the more real or true we are the more we will get out of them.

I guess it all depends on what we want from these relationships and sometimes what we are willing to do to get what we want. Treat people like you want to be treated. Try not to judge because we don't know who people really are by just outer appearances or current jobs... get to know people.

I know it sounds a little bit weird but we all have needs. Some of us (me) just need a hug from time to time, others want someone to hang out with when they are alone, someone to talk to, and others are looking for something that is missing in their lives. I know people who are very successful in their careers but their personal lives are out of sync right now. I also know some who are in love so much that they are not focusing on work... blinded by it. We all need balance. I'm still working on this too.

I tend to talk to random people when out in public (and by random meaning I hadn't met them before) and I like to listen to what they are into at this time in their lives. Some people talk about how the kids are growing up so quickly, others are looking for a place to met girls/guys to party with, and even others talk about the rough times they are having in their relationships including love, sex and the way they roll. How or why do we talk to total strangers about things that are so personal? I've done it before online chatting to people I have never met in real life. I guess we figure that we will never met them and we are looking for someone to listen and might even get some good advice. But do remember that those online people are real people and they can become real life friends, so keep it real don't blow things out of proportion or lie.

When it comes to giving advice to people I usually think about what's in it for both people involved. I may have been told what one side of the relationship needed but then I think about what the other person may have wanted. Sometimes the problem sticks out there like a sore thumb but since we are involved in relationship so deeply (emotionally, physically, whatever) we tend to be blinded by it. Love is a crazy mofo (motivator) that will make us do things we thought we would have never even considered in the past. I know I have done some crazy stuff... well we don't need to go there again. And I am NOT a doctor or have a degree in psychology so my advice is only a Jim-ology (thanks Jessi). My take on it from my point of view.

All of us from time to time need someone to listen to us vent and maybe even give us advice on how to handle a relationship issue. Be there for your friends and even if the people who are not your friends ask to talk... listen. Karma is another thing that maintains that every act done, no matter how insignificant, will eventually return to the doer with equal impact.

Be good to people, all people, listen, love, have your heart broken... do it again 'cause no one's perfect, and we all have needs.

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